Your cock is not a weapon (Here is How to use it properly)
Fucking is in the hips. It’s in the arms. It’s in the stomach. It’s in the embrace. That’s where “fucking” comes from. It’s not in your cock. It’s your hips, arms, stomach, etc using your cock. This isn’t some dance analogy thing. This is a mindset change. You’re not there to in/out with your cock. You’re there to fuck with your body and if you’re not using your body to fuck then you won’t get the same effect for either yourself or her. You won’t be able to lose yourself in the motion and so you’ll have problems with rhythm. You won’t be able to tell where she’s at because your bodies aren’t participating together. Rhythm is the orgasm maker so get into a flow. This, I believe, also helps with staying power because your mind isn’t on you, it’s on the act.
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Don’t be a douche bag, endeavor to engage in the act. Be where you are doing what you’re doing.
Sex is way more about massaging with your cock than it is in/out penetration. Yes, in/out penetration is present but even that should be viewed as massage or pressure or friction. Do not think about “imma balls deep, holla” or what the fuck ever. That shit is stupid most of the time, especially when you don’t really know what response you’re going to get.
The majority of what you do should be based on massage, pressure, friction. Sex is coaxing to orgasm, not forcing to orgasm. Below are three ways of fucking that have been universally well received in some long term relationships. Your mileage may vary.
- most women like the grinding style during coital alignment technique. It allows you to do a lot of other things with your bodies, kissing, caressing, etc that you can’t do in positions like doggstyle and you can focus on the clitoris with your pelvis via your hips.
- If you raise your partner’s legs in missionary then two things will happen. Her vaginal canal will narrow and you can apply direct pressure to the G spot. Recommended here is a bit of in/out motion combined with up/down motion. This comes from your hips as does fucking which I can’t repeat enough. This is putting it together. This is also the position that I’ve heard people say “makes the pussy talk.” There’s a reason they say that. It often does.
- For A spot stimulation recommended is nudge fucking, so called because you’re not moving much at all. It’s more a matter of putting pressure on the A spot, pushing, letting off a bit, and pushing again with your cock rubbing against the top of the vaginal canal. If your pelvis is also grinding a bit against your partner’s clitoris then this is a good place to be.
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Understand the pussy.
Obviously the clitoris is the most immediate way for a woman to have an orgasm. For direction stimulation use gentle grind fucking, focusing on the area where your cock meets your pelvis, intermixed with penetration aimed at the G-spot which is like three inches inside the vagina on the top. It feels textured (roughish) compared to everything else so it’s easy to find. There’s also the U spot but, honestly, that’s right at the urethra and if you’re going down on her then you’ll find it. I’m almost convinced that this one was differentiated just to give people something to talk about.
But there’s also another spot known as the A spot which is where the mythical vaginal orgasm lies. ‘A spot’ stands for Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone and it’s on the front of the vagina at the very back, roughly in front of the cervix (frontside of the woman’s body aka anterior). This is also known as the ‘deep spot’ or bottoming out and it absolutely shouldn’t be taken lightly. For one thing, if you can reach back there then depending on your flow you run the very real danger of stabbing her cervix with your cock which serves only to produce the most pained look on your partner’s face. She will recoil and she will not be happy. The area around the cervix is sexually sensitive but the cervix hates you. Don’t poke it.
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Lastly, dick size, some have smaller ones and some have bigger ones. Work with what you’ve got and remember that fucking comes from your whole body, not just your cock. You are not merely a body with a phallus attached. You are a whole and living and breathing man. Make sure it’s the man that’s having sex. Bring all of you to the stage and you will be rewarded and so will she.
Basically, the partners need to rock their bodies against each other in such a way that her clitoris is gently pressed against his body. This means no rampant thrusting: instead, after he has entered her, he moves his whole body upwards (in relation to hers) so that the base of his penis makes contact with the general area of her clitoris. Then they rock in a coordinated way, so that every time he moves up, she moves down.
Assume the traditional Missionary sex position. The male partner will shift up slightly, while the female partner will shift her hips down slightly, allowing her clitoris and pubic bone to come into contact with the shaft of his penis and his pubic bone.
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Since he’s not thrusting in and out per se, he’s going to be using more of an up-and-down grinding motion. She’s going to do her best to grind against him in the same way, keeping her clitoris pressed up against him to receive the stimulation the grinding motion causes. This move actually takes some practice to really get the hang of, but it’s totally worth it when she gets to have an amazing orgasm with him on top.
With this Technique, she can feel dominated by her guy and get off at the same time. When you get good at this Technique, you can easily use it to achieve simultaneous orgasm!
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